Shit happens

On a regular basis people ask me how I manage to always stay positive. I don’t. Okay listen, shit happens to me too. Things go wrong in my life too. I make bad decisions too. But it’s all about how we handle this. When things don’t go my way, when people hurt me, when I am guilty of poor decision making I get emotional, I get frustrated, I get angry, I have negative thoughts and sometimes I get so overwhelmed by my feelings that it seems like the end of the world. But come on, we all know it’s not. We should always keep in mind, that there gonna be a tomorrow, that the universe has got our back, and that things eventually turn out how it’s best for us. And no, this no naive wish-thinking, this is an helpful attitude I choose actively, because I discovered it gets me where I aim to be. In a state of inner peace. It’s important to feel all your emotions, good and bad. Suppressing them and numbing yourself only makes it worse, I promise, so that should never be an option. Just always remember that you are not your emotions, you have them. And yes, sometimes I forget that too. After you noticed, accepted and analyzed your emotions (in this exact order) you are able to let go of them. It happened to me that friends who I had given this advice became really mad at and said something like ‘But I’m not like you. I can’t ignore my feelings and be happy all the time.’- Good, ’cause that’s impossible. No one can. So listen carefully again:
Notice, accept, analyse, let go. 4-Step-System, with a bit practice absolutely manageable. So if you haven’t already, try this one out!
Moreover (you heard this a lot, but I cannot address this enough) we have to care less about what others think of us. See, only because your intentions are pure, you’re kind, trustworthy, loyal, able to reflect and admit your mistakes, forgiving and compassionate, doesn’t mean everyone else is. It still can happen that people judge you for things they heard about you, without hearing your version of the story. It still can happen that you are confronted with people, who see everything black and white. With people intentionally making you feel bad (you psychopaths!), and people turning your own words against you. That’s horrible, but be aware of the fact, that people can only hurt you if you let them. Other people throwing their negative shit at you doesn’t mean you have to take it. Choose your tribe wisely, and go where you’re celebrated, not where you’re tolerated.  And even if you surrounded by amazing people only, it can still happen that things in your life go awfully wrong. However don’t lose your faith in life and in yourself. There are still so many things to be thankful for. And there are still so many dreams to come true, adventures and beautiful places to be discovered, friendships to be build, and opportunities to grow, ahead.
So whatever is causing you grief at the moment, I say to you: It’s time to let go now.

Stay all magical and stuff!